When you become a mother, you realise that while you now have a lot of new responsibilities, you still have all the old ones too. When your baby comes along, you have to make sure that everything is just right for them. You will find that they cry a lot, and you won’t get much sleep, but you still have to take care of them when they are too cold or too hot, or tired, or hungry, or frightened, over excited or just want to cry no matter how tired you are.
The list is endless and the reality is that raising children is a full-time job although very rewarding too. However, there is still everything else that still needs to be done. For example, if you are with someone, you need to make time to see them. A lot of people think that when they have children, it will bring them and their partner closer together and they are right in a way because you have to work together or else it will not work at all. Raising children with someone requires that you know when they need a break, and when they are going to help you because you need one. Communication is central to any healthy relationship, and it is no different between parents. However, one aspect of the relationship which can tend to neglect is spending time alone with our partner and relaxing. There is usually so much to do that just going out to a movie or to a restaurant becomes something you have to plan in advance. I don’t have many options with childcare so I tend to have to go for lunch / dinner with my husband and the children which is nice but it would be great just to have some alone time with the husband.
Another of the things that you have to stay on top of when you become a parent is buying gifts. Not only will you have one more birthday to try not to forget, you will have to help your child buy presents until they are old enough to do it themselves. Here are a few gift ideas for the people in your life:
A gift that any parent will enjoy is a chance to relax or have fun. You could treat your significant other to an indulgent spa day
or maybe a chance to drive sports cars around a track. Whatever it is, they should be able to forget about all their worries of adult life and take a day off. They will appreciate it.
Most kids will not be subtle about what they want if their birthday is coming up, but if you want to get them something that will make them say ‘I just love it’, you should get them something they may not know they wanted. Things that allow them to express their creativity are great. My children love art sets are a great thing that you can share with them, as are story books. If they have a desire to build things, you can get them all sorts of great toys that will appeal to that tendency.
(Mr Squishy loves Paw Patrol so what could be better than a Paw Patrol Tumbling Towers Game!
You may not realise at first, but when you have children, your friends become an even more important support system for you. Showing them your gratitude is just as crucial. I always look forward to meeting up with my friends although it isn’t as often as I would like with all my work and home commitments.
Organising a weekend away for you all and treating them is a lovely and more special way to spend some time together and give you some much needed time with adults – something only a parent can truly understand and appreciate. Besides, you have to make time for your friends too because a lot of new parents end up growing apart from their friends because they are too busy.
Are there any gift suggestions that you might suggest for a partner, child or friend?
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