Keeping the Spark In Your Marriage
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I’ve been married for around 15 years now. I say ‘around’ as it’s a running joke between me and my husband. We always seem to forget how long it has been. Wait until the old Alzheimers sets in, then we’re really going to be in trouble.
With relentless daily routines and many people burning the candle at both ends these days, it’s possible to lose sight of what really matters. They say life is short and many don’t realise how true this really is until it’s too late. Our workloads whether at work or at home seem to take over and we find ourselves having far less time for our significant others. Over time this can make couples drift apart.
For many reasons couples can lose that spice and passion within their relationship once they have been together for some time. But, it doesn’t have to be that way. After all, we hear of so many couples in their later years having been married for 30, 40 or even 50 years. How do they do it? That’s simple enough, they make sure their relationship is one of their highest priorities.
Making Your Relationship one of Your Main Priorities
With a demanding job, a family, you may be thinking you have no time to spend on your relationship. However, avoiding this may result in you requiring a family solicitor. This can be avoided just by putting a little work into the relationship. There are many things that take no time at all, but, that can help you get things back on track and won’t break the bank.
Go on a Date
Going on dates area great way to spend time together. There are endless possibilities for date nights but the easiest and most popular ones are the classics. A meal out, cinema visit even drinks in a nice bar can be beneficial.
Show a Little Affection
When you have been together for a few years the days of affection can slowly start to dwindle away. Sure you may tell them you love them. A kiss when you go to work / out etc also helps. Why not offer to give them a foot massage after your partner has had a long day in the office, or even a back massage to try and relax after a stressful day. Even an unexpected cuddle can go a long way.
It’s Good To Talk
We can all be a little guilty of not talking to our partners much / enough from time to time. Try turning off any distractions like Facebook, put phones on silent, switch off the computer or tv and ask them about their day and in turn tell them about yours. Discuss any pressing issues rather than keeping them bottled up. This can really affect a relationship if not dealt with before it escalates.
Sometimes even the simple act of telling someone you love them can really help. Of course, you should mean it, but, it just serves as a little reminder that they have someone that cares for them.
Small Gifts
Little gifts to show you care can be a great way to show your partner you are thinking of them. There is no need for anything extravagant. Their favourite flowers, chocolates etc. can make a nice treat and reminds them you care.
What tips would you suggest to help couples keep the spark in their marriage?
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I’m not married but we’ve been together over ten years so I will definitely be considering some of these. I always like to do small gifts every now and again as it is very appreciated.
Small gifts do tend to go down very well especially if it’s something you know they really want but haven’t had the chance to get themselves.
I think good and honest communication is the key to a happy marriage like keeping up-to-date with your partner’s life, knowing how they feel and what their worries are etc.
Communication is very important. Many relationships breakdown due to poor communication.
I have been married 15 years to. I love just cuddling up to my husband and watching films together. It’s the little things that count. Like my husband buying me some tea bags when I am just about to run out!
The little things can make a big difference. Cuddles are always good.
These are great tips. I have never married before and not sure if I ever will, but these tips are definitely applicable to most relationships.
They are certainly important for those in a relationship. They help keep you close, we all need a little time together without others about.
These are all really good points. It is deffo worth chatting and also date nights are a great idea xx
Date nights can be fun. Plus it can also help to take a few hours together having fun.
I totally agree that affection is something that is vital, although the kids hate it if we hold hands or share a kiss
Ha, mine are the same. They are funny little things.
These are great tips, I think communication and talking with each other is so important as we feel that our partners are mind readers but in actual fact they are not, so it is good to speak and make things clear
I agree. Many people tend to assume rather than talk about things. That can often lead to problems. It’s good to talk!
We don’t have any access to babysitters so going out on an evening is difficult for us. We have started having lunch dates whilst the children are at school. A chance to sit, eat and chat just the two of us – Bliss!
That sounds like a great alternative. It helps to have some time together without the children.
Going on dates is so important! It’s hard to always find the time but we always love it when we get the chance.
It can be extremely hard to find the time for dates although it can make a big difference if you can do them once in a while.