HomeServe the home assistance provider have a blog called ‘ketchup’ which is turning 1 this week. An odd name for a blog I know but they called it this because it’s something that every household has. It makes sense, who doesn’t have ketchup! The blog is full of useful tips & tricks for your home, as well as gardening advice & family friendly activities. To help them celebrate their blogs 1st birthday I thought I’d write and share a post about what I wish I had known before having my first child. I am hoping some of you that are yet to have children or know others having them will find this useful, as a mother of three I can say don’t worry it will all work out in the end.
Ok so let me start with, this was a pretty long time ago now as my eldest is almost 8 years old so I am fairly experienced as a parent or at least with the parts I have covered so far, OMG I’m really dreading their teen years.
So what is it that I wish I had known during my first year as a parent?
I will try and limit this as we could be here all day, in fact I could probably write a book.
So here we have it:
5 Things I Wish I Had Known Before having my First Child
Getting baby into a Sleep Routine can be Simply Fabulous IF you can Manage it.
During your first year as a parent it’s a given that you will be sleep deprived unless of course you have your own live in nanny doing the night shift which let’s face it most of us don’t. Once you establish a sleep routine you can quickly learn how early you can get away with putting the mini one to sleep, sleep duration and also an approximate when and length of naps giving you the opportunity to have a nap, get some house work done etc. I found I was pushing myself to do too much at first and was physically exhausted. After I began to take naps in the day sometimes when baby did I must admit I did feel much better although still tired.
Children Develop at their Own Pace so DON’T compare them.
Whether it’s when they are finally sleeping through the night if they even get to that stage, when they start walking, talking, are potty trained etc. each child is unique and learns at different rates and will develop at different rates. Eventually they all even out don’t they? It’s not like you see children in reception having nappy changes so try not to get too concerned. I found some mums to be very competitive with the “my child is doing this, isn’t yours older (when they know yours isn’t doing whatever it is yet). But look at it from another perspective they are super excited about the milestone their little one has reached and it won’t be long until yours catches up and may even overtake in some areas.
Being excessively Tired Can Make you Feel Sad
It’s a shock to the system having a baby. The sleepless nights, the feeds every 1 to 1.5 hours (that was what happened to me at first, OMG nightmare) can really play a toll on your emotional state. I’m the sort of person that is generally very happy, I am also very smiley and when I was working during my first pregnancy I was told by numerous people that I was the happiest pregnant person they had ever seen. I may not have felt like everything was sunshine and rainbows but I generally didn’t show it. Cue the baby. Now I wasn’t what one might call depressed but I have always been quite a sensitive person so coupled with exhaustion the silliest things would trigger me off whether it was something in a cartoon or a kind gesture. My goodness there were floods, fortunately this normally happened when I was alone so I didn’t have an audience. Needless to say the news was no longer watched at ours, it simply wasn’t safe. I found that as I got more sleep I wasn’t so bad although I must admit I am still pretty sensitive so wouldn’t fit well as a celebrity as the media and trolls can be so cruel sometimes.
OMG My memory is Non Existent
It’s embarrassing isn’t it when you forget some ones name but what if you have a conversation with someone and totally forget about having it? It happened to me on numerous occasions which actually prompted me to go to the doctor (when I finally remembered to book) as by this stage I was concerned. After a numerous questions and a quick check up the doctor said that I needn’t worry it was just …. exhaustion. It was a relief that it was nothing serious yet also not something I was not able to do much about especially when not long after baby no2 made an appearance. Hurray more sleepless nights lol.
Enjoy Every Moment
It’s shocking how quickly children grow up. Within the blink of an eye they are onto solids, then walking around. Where once you were wishing they would say their first words you get to the stage where you wish they would be quiet even just for a minute. My youngest has just turned two and I must admit I do sometimes miss when he and his sisters were small enough for me to hold in my arms easily. Soon enough my children will be off to University and I will miss them like crazy so I am making the most of the time I have with them whilst they are small.
For those with children what do you wish you had known before having them?